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Commitment in LOVE

Okay, guys! I know not many readers follow this blog, but the very fact that I love blogging and getting down to write what goes through my mind here I am with my new blog. My last blog had come long back in July which is more than 6 months from now. I suddenly realised that the total number of posts for the year 2009 has come down to a single digit. A statistical data would reflect that it has been an exponentially decreasing graph perfect for research like the falling sensex. You can surely have a complete analysis on different trends of posts and all that mathematical calculations. So, if it continues it might soon touch the zero point. Thus an attempt to get back to this world of mine. Blogging has always been an amazing thing to do. But of course writing anything and everything doesn't make any sense. So I had been off for this quite an obvious reason.

Moving on with the fresh beginning, I would wish everyone a very Happy Valentine Day to all. Lets celebrate this day just for the sake of love but not for any form of it. It should always be taken as a reason to celebrate love. Do we really give ourselves the time and chance to let our near and dear ones know that how much we love them? May be you could use this as a medium to let others know how you feel about them. It's of course the right day to do so! Hence, do find out some time, and luckily today being a Sunday, you can't even complain for not having time! Go ahead if you haven't done it yet.

Of all the things that occurred to me during these more than six months duration I would surely consider few things which changed the way I perceive things around me. One of them being the word Love. I have always believed that it's love that makes everything worthwhile. No doubt about it though. But when we come to the point of commitment in love, I believe I had failed to understand what it was. It isn't about just the literal meaning of it. Quite a controversial thing to say and I know many may come up with different versions of the word 'commitment in love'. As I now understand this in a clearer way, I can say that it is about accepting one and everything about the person and his/her world. It's not the only person you commit to. You need to commit to the whole world around her (from now her would mean both he/she). Accepting doesn't always mean that you need to compromise. If you compromise then its not commitment in love. Its just an adjustment, and life doesn't run by making adjustments. You need to feel it internally. You need to prioritise how strongly you feel to take everything along with her in your life. Just having her to spend your life with isn't sufficient. It's also about how she takes your world with you. There needs to be a reciprocation of this event. I may love someone from the depth of my heart, but what I too need to know is how much I love her family and friends. I need to get everything right by knowing the same about her as well. That's when you say it as perfect couple bonded in love. I have had experiences of people around who keep continuing in a relationship just because they love each other or should I say they feel they love each other. But on the contrary I would often rather more than often find having differences, fights and arguments over the silliest of the things in the world. That is due to the fact that you have not yet started loving the world around her. As simple as that. And however you try, you end up some day walking in your own direction when the situation or should I say burden is too heavy to be over headed. Thus commitment and love are two different things which need to be looked at very carefully. I would define ‘commitment in love’ as companionship. How well you can give company to the one you love till the eternal without making any adjustments or compromises is the key to success of it.

17 broke the Silence...wen wud U?: (+add yours?)

Moll said...

Absolutely!!
commitment in love is companionship
'lifelong companionship'!!!
'companionship till eternity....'
(wow how romantic..anyways coming back..)
the journey till eternity would be a long one isn't it and in this long journey you inevitably have blissful moments, differences, fights, arguments(over the silliest things in the world He..He..)..
you go through sun, rain, torments (at times)..together..
"Together"
you go through everything together!!!
that's what commitment is all about..the only understanding that keeps two people bonded forever is that they don't ever EVER part ways..no matter what!!

n Most importantly..the reason for this commitment should be Love...Only Love...Solely Love..

Love that's so strong that the cost of parting ways is way heavier than the cost of staying together...

A Love so dear that the agony of parting ways hugely outweighs the pain of the fights..arguments..n everything else of that sort..

That's when u r insanely in love with someone...(thus u r bound to have insanity ke side effects..;D)

(wonder if this is a comment or a post itself..he..he..)

sonali said...
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sonali said...

I din't know u r such a nice writer.Seems u have done R&D on love and commitment.he he he....
Well u have defined the word LOVE and COMMITMENT very correctly.It's really very difficult to pendown what actually u feel about love and commitment kinda thing but hats off boss :) Awsome blog must say.... u've BEAUTIFULLY described what actually is the difference b/w love n commitment.
Now when i know that u have understood the difference so well and u also have the key to success, i wish u get ur love very soon ;)
keep posting such lovely blogs....
ALL THE BEST :)

A QUOTE ON LOVE AND COMMITMENT:

LOVE ME FOR A REASON AND LET THE REASON BE LOVE.

Saumya Snehil said...

"Accepting doesn't always mean that you need to compromise. If you compromise then its not commitment in love. Its just an adjustment, and life doesn't run by making adjustments. You need to feel it internally."

Very truly said. It was very apt and profound as one can see the present scenario of how love is being taken and how commitment is. I completely agree with your point of view about love and commitment.

Glad to see your maturity and profoundness about relationships!

Well done!

Monty said...

thanks Moll for the lovely feedback... i suppose u shud start blogging :P den i wud start giving u feedback

@sonali: well i dont deserve the kind of appreciation that u hv showered.. being humble u see.. but yeah i speak up my mind.. the tagline of my blog says it all "silence kills, speak up"

@saumya: thanks for those words.. keep visiting

Ana said...

Hmm, now this blog seems to be a little different.

Nice style of writing, mate =)

Monty said...

thanks Ana for the feedback and the visit.

Keep visiting :))

Pooja Das said...

your writing shows lot of depth and understanding on the subject...well done...

Monty said...

Thank you Pooja for the compliment. Wonder if we know each other, if you're my friend whom I know then probably you know me well :)

Satrujeet said...

I wonder where is all this coming from.. But there's definitely a new dimension to look at in your post..

And when I read about Love and Commitment, I can only remember the character of Hank Moody... from Californication.

Moll's statement of "the only understanding that keeps two people bonded forever is that they don't ever EVER part ways..no matter what!"... has simply summed up my opinions on the subject..And thats the least one thing I wish you to take from these comments .. I could die for somebody who says something like that to me !!

For the writer, (and if my opinions actually make a difference).. I see improvement.. so keep growing.

Satrujeet said...

And Dude.. Enable the RSS Feed so that I can view it on Reader as per my convenience...

Monty said...

Thanks buddy for the precious words... now i seriously wonder where is all this coming from... ;)

btw i agree with Moll too but did u get the catch out here? Mark my words "It's not the only person you commit to. You need to commit to the whole world around her (from now her would mean both he/she). Accepting doesn't always mean that you need to compromise. If you compromise then its not commitment in love. Its just an adjustment, and life doesn't run by making adjustments."

Monty said...

@Jeet

I suppose RSS feeds are enabled but you need to visit the page to view the whole content :P. My blog is just a click away.. start following me on facebook. U would never miss anything.

Satrujeet said...

Idiot. I can't open Blogger from Office but I can open reader from office. :P

Monty said...

better though wud be to keep me on to do list.. there shudnt be any distactions in office i believe...

Buzz said...

Hi, I came across your blog just because I was a bit confused about this word commitment. And the first thing that impressed me was there were no errors in your writing. That's really commendable, since quality is something that's lacking nowadays.

Secondly, thanks for writing your post. It healed me. I really needed it. All the best.

Monty said...

@Buzz: Thanks for those words of appreciation. I'm glad that it helped you in healing.

Thanks for the visit and do visit again :)